Bollywood actress Kalki Koechlin has bared about her time when she got separated with her former husband Anurag Kashyap. Kalki got married to Anurag in 2011 but got separated two years later and officially got separated in 2015.
Kalki, in a recent interview talked about her marriage, how she dealt with loneliness, and how the society works.
She said, “Once I got married, I was only invited to the things that Anurag was invited to. People would say, ‘Call Anurag’s wife’. They wouldn’t say, ‘call Kalki’ or ‘call Kalki’s husband’. “In marriage, a woman becomes the weaker gender, even if her husband doesn’t want her to be. This happens because of the way society has built the institution.”
Talking about the separation, “I found myself alone after a very long time. I had to fill up that empty space somehow. I didn’t want to fill it up by going crazy and getting drunk, or by surrounding myself with the people. I chose the introverted version of filling up myself by spending more time at home, with the family… I’m happy I went through that journey."
“It’s only that we live in a patriarchal society, and therefore, the word feminism has to be used as a counter to patriarchy. But feminism is about being equal. The word used should be ‘equalist’, as it is about all humans being equal and respecting each other for that," she added.
Kalki has always chosen some unconventional roles for herself. Be it Margarita with Straw, That Girl in Yellow Boots or Waiting, her off beat choices stands her out from other actresses.
She said, “I have retained my freedom and my ability to pick and choose. Of course, people have tried to stereotype me… But it’s very short-lived if you realise that you’re only as new as your newest film… You have to look beyond the period of initial reactions and recognise that there’s a bigger body of work and an effort to do something bigger."